What’s saving your life right now?

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It’s no longer the midpoint of winter, not exactly. That came and went ten days ago and because my mom had just died suddenly, we didn’t mark it here as […]

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It’s no longer the midpoint of winter, not exactly. That came and went ten days ago and because my mom had just died suddenly, we didn’t mark it here as planned—but we’re marking it now. (We did share Shannan’s wonderful post on the books she reaches for during SAD season, which many of you found extraordinarily helpful.)

We have a longstanding February practice here at Modern Mrs Darcy. Winter isn’t an easy season for many of us, and so to beat back the gloom, we’ve habitually gathered at its midpoint to share the things—big or small—that are saving us right now.

The idea comes from Barbara Brown Taylor’s wonderful memoir Leaving Church. In it, she tells the story of how once, when she was invited to speak at a gathering, her host gave her this instruction for her speaking topic: “Tell us what is saving your life right now.” She said the genius of the question is that though most of us know exactly what’s killing us, it’s harder to name what’s saving us. It’s too good a question not to revisit from time to time, and so we’ve done it annually at the midpoint of winter. (Or, in 2024, thereabouts.)

We’ve been doing this for many years now, more than ten if you can believe it, and my own answers to this question have varied. I’ve written about the small sips that are saving me, and travel advice as life advice. I’ve told you about jigsaw puzzles and Friday coffee and taking the long view. To my great surprise, I’ve waxed poetic about laundry. Last year I wrote about sitting on the couch and the mindset that made that a little easier. Over and over again, I’ve cited sunshine and long walks and good books and sleep as essentials for getting through these dark days.

The blessing and curse of a tradition is that it comes around whether you’re ready for it or not. This year the question of what’s saving me doesn’t feel right, though I hope it does for you. For me, it’s more like: what’s keeping my head above water right now? And for me that my list is long, as perhaps it should be: texts and calls from friends checking in, dinner from neighbors. My family of six, all home together for a bit—even the one who had to fly in from Germany. Hugging my cousins. Puzzles and walks and reading on the couch. Hearing old and new stories about my mom. Seeing extended family for the first time in ages. My daughter texting me every day asking, “how are you mama?” My husband, whom I’ve dubbed my emotional support human because I would very much like him by my actual side at all times right now. The time and space to step away from work for a bit; my capable team that makes that possible.

There’s a reason we do this as a community. I know I’m not the only one who would very much like to hear what’s saving your life right now—or, if that question feels like a bridge too far, what’s keeping your head above water.

What’s saving your life right now? Tell us below, or link to your own blog or Instagram post below in the comments section.

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